B. Simone was met with criticism after revealing that she had her first orgasm “ever in her life” while addressing a climax disparity among women.
“Fun fact: I had my 1st orgasm ever in life last month. I’ve been celibate for ten months…what does that tell you?” she tweeted.
Fun fact :
I had my 1st orgasm ever in life last month . I’ve been celibate for 10 months…what does that tell you ? 🤔
— B.Simone (@TheBSimone) May 2, 2022
The entrepreneur’s surprising revelation confused many, as Twitter users suggested that she was responsible for making herself orgasm during sex and most likely dealing with men who weren’t interested in her.
One user said, “You sleep with people that don’t care about you and have no interest in your orgasm. Just their own pleasure.”
You sleep with people that don’t care about you and have no interest in your orgasm. Just their own pleasure.
— . (@Ahava____) May 3, 2022
“The other dudes wasn’t hitting it right,” another user said.
The other dudes wasn’t hitting it right 😂😂
— Queen Millz 👑 (@Mkaiser55) May 2, 2022
“You was giving it to the wrong person,” a third user said.
You was giving it to the wrong person
— Asaf🇿🇦🇺🇸 (@LuyandaLyon) May 2, 2022
However, in her follow-up tweets, Simone credited a woman whose a sex educator that allegedly helped her learn more about the female anatomy and provided tips for having an orgasm.
“I met this lady. She’s an intimacy coordinator /sex educator. She has taught me so much, and it’s so cool to learn things that we just don’t learn. We just start having sex, not knowing simple shit. I mean, I’m hella late having [an] orgasm (I’m not talking bout that ) but other stuff,” she explained in the tweet.
I met this lady she’s an intimacy coordinator /sex educator. She has taught me so much and it’s so cool to learn things that we just don’t learn . We just start having sex not knowing simple shit. I mean im hella late having and orgasm (im not talking bout that ) but other stuff
— B.Simone (@TheBSimone) May 2, 2022
Simone called out the men denouncing her statements, saying that most of them could not locate the clitoris — and what she said was proven by facts. A British study from YouGov found that 59 percent of men could not find the clitoris on a diagram.
If I point to the clitoris on a diagram and ask 10 men what it was I promise you they all wouldn’t know. Please stop acting like you know everything about a woman’s body when in reality you’re not taking the time to learn
— B.Simone (@TheBSimone) May 2, 2022
While the orgasm gap was common among women, several studies have cited gender differences in sexual experiences and reaching an orgasm.
According to a study from the “The Journal of Sexual Medicine,” men have difficulty telling when (or if) women climax during a sexual encounter. In the study, researchers determined that out of 1,700 newlywed couples, 43 percent of husbands were unaware of how often their wives orgasm and overestimated their O’s.
“The general lack of men’s awareness was surprising,” said Nathan Leonhardt, a Ph.D. candidate at the University of Toronto and lead author of the study. “We were expecting some [gap in awareness], but such a high percentage tells us this is a very prevalent issue.”
In 2016, researchers conducted a study and found that 30 traits contributed to the orgasm gap between men and women. Ninety-five percent of heterosexual men said they almost always orgasm during sex, compared to 65 percent of heterosexual women.
“The number-one reason for the orgasm gap — and it’s not the only one — is our cultural ignorance of the clitoris,” Laurie Mintz, author of “Becoming Cliterate: Why Orgasm Equality Matters — And How to Get It,” told NBC News BETTER.
A lack of sexual communication is an issue that can cause a decrease in sexual experiences among couples, according to the National Library of Medicine. Both men and women have to communicate their sexual needs and desires to provide a healthy relationship moving forward.
